Three Party Agreement For Students
Parents typically mean well
So I should learn from experience only?
“So often, parents want to play Edward Scissorhands and start pruning their child like a tree, but the reality is that your tree has just begun to grow, and you don't even know what kind of tree it is. Maybe it's not a sports tree.”
What is the Three Party Agreement?
The Three Party Agreement is the formalization of the idea that I act like a coach to you and that your parent is encouraged to be your cheerleader, but forbidden from being your coach. (They will now act more as a consultant) Everyone has skin in the game, and everyone has something to gain. Each party is also capable of terminating the relationship.
What is your role as a student?
Your role in this arrangement is to exert your best effort in accomplishing a worthy learning goal as well as trying to do your best to grow your mind and yourself as a person. We will discuss what assignments would be appropriate for you in light of your workload and schedule for that week. You are expected communicate effectively if something comes up. I will be delivering a measure of your effort to your parents using a metric called a social credit score.
"Don't try to carpet the world when it's far easier to give out slippers."
What is a social credit score?
Under no circumstances will I teach you if you are disinterested in working with me. I want better for you than that! If your best solution is with someone else, then that is what I want for you. I want to help students that are interested in working together as a team.
I also want to help you to understand that knowing how to do work and doing work are two different things, and that impact hours are necessary for any worthy achievement. If you decide to starve your dream of success due to lack of impact hours, I will encourage you to find a cheaper way of failing, because you will have adopted a failing strategy. Sorry not sorry.
If your social credit score, which is a measure of your standing as a student, reaches the lowest of three possible scores, all of your tutorials will be cancelled, and work can only begin again if I receive in writing, from you, a compelling reason to do so.
The vast majority of students have absolutely no issue completing assignments and trying their best (or close to it). However, it’s important that we communicate clearly up front, so that everyone is clear before we begin what the expectations are (and aren’t).
What's my role as a tutor?
“My dad is the smartest person I know. But his methods don't work for me. I don't have the brain of a middle-aged man.”
What's my parent's role?
What does each party stand to lose and gain?
You, as the student, stand to gain a more secure future and the chance to prove that your work, done the way you want it to be, can lead to your own accomplishment. I, as the tutor, stand to gain not only in your and your parents’ eventual review and referrals of my services, but also the fulfillment of truly improving your life and your future. I really enjoy when I can drastically improve the life of a student for the better. Your parents stand to gain a more relaxed home life where they can enjoy you and your family, without fighting about school work. Depending on your family’s situation, they can also stand to save a lot of money in college tuition if you are granted a scholarship.
As a student, your greatest risk is a low return on your time investment. While most of my previous students have experienced success ranging from marginal gain to completely remapping their collegiate outlook, there is ultimately no guarantee that you will experience such a change. Your parent puts their time but also their capital at risk. My time is also at risk as is the reputation of my business.